Getting Back to A Formula That Worked

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Guest post by Nicole Blowes:

I looked back on my blog post for Your Formula for Life from January 2016, and noted that some of the elements of my formula that I mentioned in that post were to “Just say no” and “Take time for myself”. I can honestly say that formula worked for me then, but I will admit I’ve since allowed elements of my life to get in the way and I fell off that wagon months ago!

I’m hoping that many of you can relate.

I’m hoping that it’s pretty common that despite some healthy habits working in a life formula, you too can easily fall back into old patterns and find yourself having to make the changes all over again.

I love to read a good book and sit down and journal. I love to update my blog with the latest recipe I have tried or opinion I may have on something. I love to travel and I like to go out and try new restaurants, among other things. But, I seriously cannot remember the last time I stopped to enjoy any of these things. When did I stop choosing me?

I feel like it’s common for women lean towards the people-pleasing kind of nature and sometimes we get very caught up in our relationships and feel like the things that make us the happiest as an individual, have to fall to the bottom of the priority list so we can keep those important people around us happy. I’ve come to learn though that IT IS OKAY TO CHOOSE MYSELF. It is okay to be my own sunshine!

This year, I woke up New Year’s Day and decided to start choosing myself again.

In 2017 I want to be sure I spend more time with me!  Reading my favourite books, watching some really good Netflix series’, going for lots of walks – just overall spending more time doing what I enjoy! I’m going to stick with the people who I love (and who love me) and I will stop saying yes to things I do not want to do. I will find my tribe and love them hard. I’m going to love myself enough to set boundaries because my time and energy are precious to this world and so I’m going to be more deliberate in how I use them. I will teach people how to treat me by clearly defining what I will and will not accept from them.

I’m going to conclude with a quote that really resonates with me and with what I want for myself in 2017.

“Happiness comes from living as you need to, as you want to. As your inner voice tells you to. Happiness comes from being who you actually are instead of who you think you are supposed to be.”

~Shonda Rhimes, Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person


Nicole Blowes is 23 years old, works for John Deere, and recently moved to her boyfriend’s dairy farm to put down some roots. In her spare time, she coaches Stratford Aces hockey, spends time with friends and family, likes to be active, and volunteering.